My ex “K” just broke up with me. She said she would like to still be friends, though, and since the breakup was friendly, I gladly said I was fine with that.

  • Defectus@lemmy.world
    5·
    3 hours ago

    Ended a 16 year relationship a couple of months ago. No hard feelings, still friends. It’s easier that way :)

  • djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    2·
    2 hours ago

    It’s actually my entire friend group rn lol. One of my exes from high school has been my best friend for 10 years. I made up with my ex I dated during college after a super messy break-up and now we hang out and watch anime together. Recently, I had a very short term long distance fling with a guy I met on here, and we still chat about gaming and politics and shit on Discord multiple times a week.

    I’ve definitely had messy and bad relationships that were just unsalvageable, but I really don’t like throwing people away after I’ve shared a bunch of my life with them. The only weird part is how many of my friends have seen me naked.

  • vortexal@lemmy.ml
    1·
    2 hours ago

    I was friends with some of my exs but after I graduated high, all of my friends went their separate ways. I haven’t talked to any of them in over 9 years.

  • Steve Dice@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    1·
    2 hours ago

    Every time I’ve tried to be “friends” with an ex, we ended up in a awkward post-relationship-situationship that eventually lead to a bigger “break up” and us going no-contact.

  • janNatan@lemmy.ml
    3·
    3 hours ago

    Yeah, just one. He left me for religious reasons (we’re both men). Took me a long time to actually get over him, but I moved on and married and such. The three of us hang out sometimes.

    I do kinda wish I could convince him to be a little less religiously wacky. Oh well.

      • janNatan@lemmy.ml
        1·
        2 hours ago

        I cannot speak for others. My ex was not religious when I met him. I feel like my experience isn’t similar to what you’ve encountered.

  • certified_expert@lemmy.world
    7·
    6 hours ago

    You both need a time off, stop or make interactions really “rational and controlled”. It takes time to shift to different dynamic between you two.

    Once you both (or at least one of you) get new partners, things will be more promising for a genuine friendship.

    Otherwise, lingering feelings or “emotionally weak” days seriously risk ruining the relationship and make things permanently awkward.

    source: my own experience. I am best friends with my ex. And lived the process myself.

  • twice_hatch@midwest.socialEnglish
    2·
    6 hours ago

    Yeah. We text occasionally and she might visit on the way through the state soon. It’s not a close friendship but we like staying in touch

  • BanMe@lemmy.world
    3·
    8 hours ago

    All of them yes. I make it a point to get back on friendship terms so there aren’t any open wounds or resentments festering. I want to wish them the best, so I do.

  • But_my_mom_says_im_cool@lemmy.world
    4·
    9 hours ago

    Im actually the kind to say when you break up move on. Still being friends is a recipe for many disasters. Especially once you’re in a long term or get married

  • tias@discuss.tchncs.de
    8·
    11 hours ago

    I have some exes that I wanted to and could be friends with (one I was for several years). But it just doesn’t fly with a new domestic partnership. I can tell my current girlfriend that I’m going to see female friends, but going out with friends who I’ve previously had sexual relations with is stretching it. I wouldn’t want my girlfriend to do that and so I won’t do it to her.

    It makes me a bit sad, but I have effectively ended those friendships by no longer agreeing to seeing them.

    I also have exes that I wouldn’t wish on my biggest enemy and I avoid them like the plague.